No betrayal can damage a relationship as bad as cheating. Even the suspicion of infidelity can slowly poison a partnership, eating away at intimacy and trust.
If your partner cheats on you, it's normal to wonder why. What could you have done differently? How could you have prevented it? Remind yourself, it's not about you. Cheaters choose to cheat, whether it's because of self-esteem issues, commitment issues, sexual issues, or something else.
Not all cheaters are the same but they do share a lot of similar behaviors...or changes in behavior. Keep an eye out for sudden shifts in behavior or personality. Before you jump to conclusions, talk to them honestly and discuss your concerns.
Don’t believe their answers? Keep an eye out for these five signs of cheating:
They take their phone EVERYWHERE
Is your partner constantly texting? Do they refuse to leave their phone alone with you? They know a message from someone else could come at any time and make sure their phone is always with them...and away from you. Consider it extra suspicious if they change passwords and refuse to share them or regularly clear the browser history on shared computers or devices.
The sex is less, more, or different
Is your previously healthy sex life suddenly non-existent? Or is your partner showering you with affection in an uncharacteristic way? Significant, unexpected changes to your physical relationship can indicate your partner is hiding something.
They are overly attentive
Sometimes guilt can manifest in the form of attention and gifts. Your partner is extra interested in you, extra helpful, and extra generous. If someone who hates to do the dishes suddenly gains enthusiasm for it, keep your eyes and ears open for some of the other signs.
The relationship has money issues
Keeping an affair secret takes creativity and cash. Credit cards are easier to trace so cheaters typically prefer to pay cash. If you've got a shared account, look at their ATM withdrawals. If it happens frequently and without reason, it's worth asking about.
You've just got that gut feeling
It doesn't take a private investigator to catch a cheater. Even if your partner knows how to cover their tracks and gives you no evidence of an affair, sometimes you simply can't ignore that gut feeling. Those are your instincts kicking in. Listen to your intuition.
If you suspect your partner is cheating, trust in a psychic expert that can quell your suspicions. They can help you make sense of all the emotions you’re experiencing. Let them guide you to forgiveness or help you move on.