We are complicated beings, made of emotions, way of thinking, physical constitution, education, up-bringing, so only some parts of us can be changed, but not all. I can see which of your personal weaknesses can be changed and overcame and which ones cannot be changed because they are deeply integrated into ourselves, making us the way we are. Please don't think I don't wish you well if I don't see some weakness cannot be changed, but accepted and eventually redirected into something more convenient and useful