We all want to meet that special someone, whether you believe in soulmates or not. Everyone wants to meet the one person that fits us like a glove. You can call it soulmates, twin flames, true love and a dozen other special words. We have so many words for it, but how do you know you have found your soulmate? Here are my top 10 signs that you have found your soulmate:
1. You can tell them anything
Are you able to share your true thoughts and worries? One of the key signs that you’re with your soulmate is the ability to share anything with this person. Soulmates feel free to share their thoughts, ideas, and memories with each other—even traumatic events, childhood memories, and their darkest thoughts. Vulnerability is a big part of this. You should feel comfortable to be vulnerable and to open up with your soulmate.
2. Communication is easy, even when life isn’t
By this, I mean communication on all levels. For a lot of couples, communication can be difficult. Soulmates can discuss any topic, but communication goes beyond just talking. It’s a simple glance or body gesture. Nonverbal communication is strong among soulmates, even when disagreements arise. The ability to communicate through conflict says a lot about your relationship. Some people in unhealthy relationships see disagreements as a “you vs. me” type of thing, however soulmates see it as “you AND me vs. the problem”.
3. You feel comfortable and safe
How comfy are you around your special one? Soulmates naturally connect well and have a deep understanding of each other. This connection makes both of you feel relaxed in each other’s presence. It eliminates any fear or anxiety. It is about letting your guard down and being the authentic you. You shouldn't feel the need to put up a front or to hide parts of who you are.
4. You have similar goals and dreams
Often, true soulmates have similar goals and dreams, but these goals don’t have to be identical. It’s not a requirement that you and your soulmate share the precise same views on every subject. You are still unique individuals. However, soulmates have an easy time planning their future and building their families together. There aren't many quarrels or disagreements. They connect naturally so their ideas and values align.
5. There’s a magnetic attraction
Although attraction is only one part of the soulmate connection, it’s an important one. Do you have natural chemistry with each other? The attraction can be physical, emotional, intellectual, or a combination of any of these. Ideally, it should contain all of these aspects. Attraction can be extremely intense between soulmates. You may feel very attracted to your soul mate and unable to think of anyone else. It is like feeling a strong attraction towards him or her unlike anything you have ever experienced before. Some people have described this as feeling an 'electricity' when they touch. It is something different and something incomparable.
6. You make each other laugh
Laughter is often an underrated aspect. True soulmates can make each other laugh easily, regardless of the situation. This is one way that they help each other overcome troubling times. That is the reason why this is such an important factor in a relationship. Being able to make the one person you love laugh while they are going through something difficult is amazing! The ability to give them joy while they are struggling is a key sign you are meant to be.
7. It’s painful to be apart
True soulmates hate to be separated. Being apart for long periods of time is painful and difficult. They usually can’t handle long distance relationships and only want to take vacations, business trips, and other journeys together.
8. You understand each other emotionally
We all deal with emotions in different ways and this can be difficult. If your soulmate is able to understand what you need when you are feeling down, whether it is rest, reassurance, a hug or something else, that is a HUGE sign! So many couples have great difficulty with this. You two may not have the same coping mechanisms when it comes to emotions, however you understand each other and can make it work despite the differences.
9. You’re their #1 fan
“Oh, I think that I found myself a cheerleader. She is always right there when I need her.” As my favorite song says, your soulmate should be your number one fan. You should always encourage each other. Did you know that often when we are deeply in love, we feel so much more motivated and energetic? I recognize this in myself too! Love gives us a new sense of motivation, strength and can transform us into better versions of ourselves.
10. You love each other at your worst
We all have bad days and we all have times where we can be irrational or do and say irrational things. Some people choose to walk away if they are in a particular rough time in their relationship. However, what many fail to realize is that life has ups and downs and so do relationships. If you are able to see your soulmate at their worst and still love them as much as before, this is a big sign. It says a lot about the nature of your relationship and shows you two have something that is long lasting and maybe even forever.
Finding your soulmate is tough, but not impossible
Oh, how sweet love is! If you recognize the above signs in the person you are with, then you should consider yourself lucky. It is difficult to find that special someone, especially nowadays, however it is certainly not impossible! In my language, we say “op ieder potje past een dekseltje”. This is Dutch for “every pot has its perfect lid”. All of us have a perfect match out there. Even if you haven't found your soulmate just yet, know that the special person for you is out there. You will eventually find your perfect lid too!
Sending all of you much love, light and as always lots of positive vibes!